It's taken me a long time to admit that I am resilient, let alone a diva! I do love a little glitz and glamour now and then, but I'm not one to need a lot of tending to before stepping out my front door. I'm more of the "yoga clothes count as clothes if you put a cute ball cap with it" kind of gal. No time for make up and hair? Posing as an athlete solves that! So what gives me the right to call myself a diva, let alone a Resilient Queen Diva?!
Diva comes from the Sanskrit word Deva or shining one. A few years back, I didn't feel like I was the type to shine. I was more of fade into the background type. Pull up the rear. Support staff for hubby and kids. Mom and wife of the year. Making sure that everyone was thriving and living center stage in their lives. Making their epic dreams come true in music, gymnastics, real estate and business. In my efforts to ensure that they were not only achieving their dreams, I forgot about mine; Or I thought that my dreams were the all about being a mom, and not having dreams separate from theirs.
I wasn't the leading lady in my own life. I had an ache in my heart and my body was in constant pain. My marriage was in the final stages of it's very lonely and dysfunctional life as well. I was on the verge of turning 50, about 50 lbs overweight and felt like a complete failure.
And then something happened. About a month after I turned 50, I heard from an old friend that I hadn't talked to in 30 years. Ahhh the joys of being found on Facebook! I was served up a huge reminder of the 20 year old girl that I used to be. Full of promise, dreams, opinions, drive and positive attitude. I looked at myself in the mirror and felt sad for the person I had become. I thought, well lady, you have nowhere to go but up from here!
Sick and tired of punishing myself with diets, I joined a gym with supportive friends. I started eating healthy. That was the starting point of my resilience journey. I went to my chiropractor. I treated myself to massage. From there, as I started to physically feel better, I was able to address some of my emotional pain. As my body I was recovering, it no longer tolerated my emotional neglect. I started to go to the library and pick up books on self development and relationships. Throughout the next year or so, I worked hard at recovery. In all areas of my life. The more I pushed past the barriers I thought I had in my life, the more that I could see possibilities. The more I laughed. The more I could see that my dreams were still worthwhile and not only were my dreams and my health important for me, they were also important for my family.
Unfortunately, my marriage did not survive the changes in my life. But this too has been, in retrospect one of my biggest blessings. I have no regrets about who I married years ago. I have my wonderful kids and good memories of times we had together. We walked the path we were meant to walk together until that fork in the road forced me to choose. I chose my own emotional and physical health and well being. I chose my own resilience journey. I chose to become a Deva. The one to shine and illuminate my own life. Be in charge of my own choices and have the freedom to be happy. Again.
Please join me here in Resilience Divas Coaching. I will regularly be posting in the blogs section as I share skills for resilience. I have a background in Family Studies and Counselling as well as Human Resources and Career and Academic Advising. I also have 26+ years in business. So I am very skills based in my approach but here's the thing. I am also a highly intuitive empath. I am a compassionate badass. I will walk alongside you as we rediscover your innate gifts that will put you on the path to being the Queen Deva of your own life. Whether you are a mom, a wife, a business woman or a student, you deserve to be the leading lady of your own life. The people who love you, want this for you! Let's get started!